Rejection is more difficult to handle than a car without a steering wheel.
Much like in Soviet Russia, you don’t handle rejection. Rejection handles you. Да?
So what can you do?
You can’t force others NOT to reject you. That’s a natural part of life. But you can teach yourself not to have any expectations. You can look at rejection as a friend and not a foe.
Learning to deal with rejection starts with reshaping the way you think about getting rejected.
Here’s what I mean.
You don’t have to worry about being rejected if you stop caring about getting…
Getting expelled from high school isn’t your typical coming-of-age story.
Halfway through 9th grade, my friends and I got in some serious doo-doo for stealing from other students. Not just lunch money. I’m talking wallets and iPods and even a laptop.
Looking back, I’m pretty fucking lucky that I didn’t end up as some dude’s girlfriend in a juvenile detention center.
But getting kicked out of school taught me that fitting into a group isn’t such a great thing to aim for. Because when you try too hard to fit in, you wind up forgetting who you are.
‘Do you actually know how to ride?’
That’s what Sergei asked me while I struggled to get on his old mountain bike he was selling. After nearly wiping out on the test ride, I handed him $300 and went off to buy myself an insulated cooler bag.
Pretty much like any new experience, I was far from decent when I first started delivering food on a bike. I didn’t know what the best way was to change gears. I wasn’t familiar with all the bike-friendly streets. …
If there’s one thing I’ve taken away from business school, it’s how to write more effectively. And also the fact that tax accounting is hella boring.
People may think you have to be Siri’s sibling to be able to write appropriately in business.
But just because you’re writing about ‘customer lifetime value’ doesn’t mean you can’t apply certain aspects of a style to all the other things you write.
Here are some tips I’ve learned about business writing to give a little stimulus package to your next draft.
The most important business writing principle I continue to use is to…
There is more wisdom in your body than in your deepest philosophy.
Experience trumps theory. Actions speak louder than words.
You’ve heard this repeated again and again more times than you can count in your lifetime.
And yet, we’re often so paralyzed by our thoughts about what we should do that we end up doing nothing. Or even worse, we blindly follow what other people think we should do and wake up ten years later doing things we don’t really want to do.
Maybe we’re better off not thinking so much and just doing whatever feels right. …
Positive thinking seems to be all the rage nowadays.
It’s the quick-fix cure-all when negativity comes knocking at your door.
Haters got you down? Think positive thoughts!
Feeling like you’ll never find ‘the one?’ Think positive thoughts!
But as much as we all rave about how great positive thoughts are, we can’t forget how much we need our negative thoughts to survive. Without negativity, positive thoughts lose their meaning and value.
Think about this for a second, or sixty.
When an embarrassing memory surfaces in your head, where did it come from? When you hear a new song for the…
We’re all afraid of something, and that’s nothing to be ashamed of. I’m afraid of spiders myself.
Our fears alert us to danger as a form of protection. When I see a spider and shriek like a bunch of Justin Bieber fans, it’s because I think it’s dangerous and can hurt me.
But it’s also a way to challenge us to be better. To become dangerous ourselves.
Confronting the things you’re terrified of is tricky. You’re usually so overwhelmed with fear you have no idea what to do, and your body’s ready to sprint in the other direction.
Do you start to sweat every time you meet someone new? Do you avoid people you know in public so you don’t have to say hi?
I used to be an incredibly shy person. I once rode the streetcar an extra stop so I wouldn’t have to carry on a conversation with some acquaintances (I ran into them again after I got off).
Even though my friends would constantly encourage me to ‘be more social,’ I had no idea what I was supposed to do to make that happen.
And then, after I spent some time as a restaurant server…
nobody really has life figured out, not even your parents
Remember when you were young and you’d talk about all the things you’d do when you grew up?
Do you remember feeling like a grownup, but then realizing that, despite your age, you still hadn’t really grownup?
I didn’t start growing up until I was about 26.
I’d done grownup things like getting a degree and building a career. But beneath my LinkedIn profile and a sorry excuse for stubble, I was just a man-child, a reckless crybaby without an eye to the future.
I still have lots of growing…
I saw my dream girl today.
She had a crown of dark, curly hair and the complexion of a Nubian goddess.
I saw my dream girl today. And I walked right past.
I fucking blew it.
Look, I’m not gonna lie. Just like everyone, I have my own moments of fear and self-doubt. Even courage has its off days.
And while I’m still kicking myself for not being able to practice what I so often preach about facing fear, I’ve learned the humbling necessity of admitting my mistakes.
’Cause sometimes it’s not about painting yourself as the infallible master. Sometimes…
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